Updated 5/15/2019

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Screen Shot 2019-05-15 at 8.44.01 AMTrading One Addiction for Another is Not Recovery As many of you know, I have a sister site, where I offer advising services to those who have pornography addiction issues and their partners or family who are trying to learn and cope with the situation. I’ve done this for about a year now and after working with many people, I’m seeing a trend of pornography addicts trading their addiction for another. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-05-11 at 4.15.16 PMI Was Raped. Why Do I Feel Nothing? One of my favorite blogs to read is Revenge of Eve and in one of her postings today, she reflected back on a traumatic sexual assault at 14 she didn’t recognize as assault at the time. I thought it was refreshing to hear somebody say that they were a willing participant in the moment, but that the perpetrator (in this case a man in his 30s) is appalling and should have known better. I think a lot of sexual assaults aren’t as cut and dry as “this person did X against my will” and they need to be talked about. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-05-05 at 4.22.08 PM‘Radical Acceptance’ Has Been Crucial to My Successful Addiction Recover One of the more important tools I developed in recovery has been the practice of radical acceptance. I was once called out for not having any radical acceptance ability when I was in rehab and it forced me to reflect on the accusation. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-04-30 at 11.06.49 AMGuest Article: Making Early Porn Addiction Recovery Easier Living in recovery from porn addiction can be a lifelong process full of challenges and wins. There are many emotions attached to your journey and navigating your new lifestyle may feel impossible at times. Luckily, the healthier habits you build over time will become easier as you understand your own behaviors from a psychological standpoint. Click Here

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Questions & Answers

Spotlight On Question And Answer

NEWEST QUESTION:  I’m struggling with this addiction and I need help. What now? ANSWER: That’s about as direct and to-the-point as you can get. It’s hard to get very specific because I don’t know if you’re looking once-a-week and feel bad about yourself or if this is a daily, multi-hour activity that is starting to stray into extreme or illegal territory. Either way there are some common pieces of advice I’d offer. To Continue with the Answer, Click HERE

Recent Q&A Entries

  • Should I go to rehab to get help for my pornography addiction? Click Here
  • I feel like I’m too young to be a porn addict. What should I do? Click Here
  •  He says he wants help; I think he just wants to stay together. What now? Click Here
  • Should I still go to therapy if my porn using husband refuses? Click Here
  • Are PMO and NoFap effective pornography addiction programs? Click Here
  • I’ve accepted I’m a porn addict, so what next? Click Here
  • How do I know if I’m REALLY an addict? Click Here

Goodbye Amazon!
Pick up my book at lowest price ever!

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Thankfully, the handcuffs are off and I don’t have to deal with Amazon anymore when it comes to my book.

As a special celebratory offer, I’m selling my book directly to the public for only $10 + $2.50 shipping & handling in the US. Click Here for more details.

Just want to read the book?
Here’s a list of libraries in the world with the book:  Click Here

 

 

I’m Now Offering Peer Support Counseling

adult-adventure-baby-532508I am formally providing peer support counseling to people who are dealing with pornography addiction or those who have porn addicts in their lives who are directly affected. Consider it a stopping point between doing nothing and traditional mental health therapy. Click Here for Website

 

Select Radio, TV and Podcast Interviews (Complete list HERE):
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Need a Porn Addiction Expert for your show? Click HERE

 

Available for presentations, appearances

Web Flyer picI am now presenting “The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About” which takes a look at the looming health crisis that pornography addiction poses in the near future. If your church, library, college organization or civic group would like a non-graphic presentation, or if you would like to see where I’ll be presenting, follow the contact link.

 

If you’re looking for a quote for an article or would like me to appear on your podcast or radio show, contact me HERE.

20 comments

      1. Vanilla Ice has a movie?! haha
        I don’t think sales are as important as you having the courage of sharing all of this. But of course, I wish that everything works out!

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  1. Thank you for being open about this relevant subject! I, along with my other pastors, was never taught how to address this matter in seminary. Despite the neglect, God showed me how to extend grace to those with this struggle and help restore them to the path God has for them. Someone must speak up, and those who hear must not play the Pharisee.

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  2. I heard you on a podcast and bought your book exactly four months ago now. I finally got through the book (I’m a slow reader but also thought it wise to chew on your story daily.) You may have saved my life. I took your advice and have filed this as a cautionary tale. Read, filed, and there to read again. Many positive actions have been taken in that time span. More to come. Sleep – I must add – has proven to be my biggest ally for positive change in my life over these past few weeks over which the most change has occurred for me.

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  3. You are so welcome. As I read this reply from you to my post, I feel connected to you as not just a writer of a book but as a real person. It brings up emotions of both sadness and joy – for your hardships and your ultimate successes. I am sure much of that emotion is mine as I consider my struggles and several times when I thought my actions were about to bring my whole world down. I have had so many chances to turn it around and I feel that this will be the time when it may actually happen. Thank you again, Mr. Shea.

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  4. Hey dude,

    Thanks for following my blog – I’d try to follow you back but I don’t know how to (just got this thing).

    It’s awesome you’re doing so much for the recovery movement – much respect!

    Peace Y

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