Your one-minute answer to “Why Don’t Addicts Just Stop?”

One of the most frequently asked questions I get when I do podcasts is something along the lines of “When the average person looks at an addict, they can’t understand why the addict doesn’t just stop. Why can’t they?” For someone who doesn’t have the experience of being an addict, it’s a question that makes sense to me. I have no idea how so many things in this world work or why they are the way they are. The best way to find out is to ask, so for all of those who have ever wondered, I provide this 1-minute answer from my appearance on The Come to the Table Podcast.

Even if you’ve heard my story before, I’d urge you to at least listen to the first 20-25 of this episode as it’s a conversation I’ve not had before, touching on my spirituality, upbringing in the church, the modern state of the Catholic Church, and a quirky “would you rather” game.

9 thoughts on “Your one-minute answer to “Why Don’t Addicts Just Stop?”

  1. I can relate to your upbringing. Because Texas was so segregated in the 50s and 60s I thought the whole world was white and protestant until I started college. My disillusionment with religion in general lasted until I was almost 60 when someone dared me to read “Mere Christianity” by C.S. Lewis. The rest is history, as they say. By the way, that’s the first time I’ve heard you speaking and I must say you’re very clear and loquacious (in a good way). Keep sounding the alarm, bro.

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    1. It occurs to me that I’ve never heard you either…have you ever posted any of your music anywhere? I appreciate you saying i’m a decent speaker, and yeah, I can be loquacious, for both good and bad. I step on podcast hosts’ words too often, but unlike this particular podcast, sometimes that’s a good thing.


      1. I listened to that one and two others I found on that channel. Good stuff. That’s the kind of music I loved here live. Very much a Chris Isaak meet Blood, Sweat and Tears vibe going there for me. I especially enjoyed the guitar work.

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      2. Glad you liked it. Most of the guitar work on our stuff is me but on the song I linked it’s one of the best guitarists in Dallas, Alan McDaniel, killing it. It’s nice to have talented friends who’ll work cheap!

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  2. You put a post-it over your phone and then ….. it blows up! Somebody could have died, who? when? I need to know!!! Maybe my house is on fire and it’s the landlord calling. That is how my mind would work I think. Not one small beep but an avalanche of calls, beeps and other things. I like the analogy you use with the phone, it is a very clear one.
    When you’re out of addiction it is so easy to say, I ‘just’ don’t do that (anymore) because that is technically what it is but not quite …

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  3. They’ll still be dead tomorrow, and if it was important, they’d find another way to reach you. I just had a great lunch with a friend at a brew pub and I wasn’t at all triggered, but I thought to myself, “Damn, a nice IPA would taste wonderful right now.” But, that’ll never happen again. Then I checked to see who texted me.


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