I’ve been trying to write two blog entries a week and trying to make sure at least one of them is about pornography addiction, but some weeks are easier and some weeks are harder to get up for research and this is one of those difficult weeks, so maybe it won’t happen.
In the past, as recently as four or five months ago, I would have been a little more down on myself for not hitting a blogging deadline, but I’ve learned not to treat this as such a lifeline to a world, or to look for my blog for as much interaction as I was getting. Yeah, my views are down 50% what they were when I was writing every day and that would have killed my spirit in November, but now, I think I have the healthier “it is what it is” mindset. If this blog was monetized, that would be one thing, but a steep dip in stats is yielding just as much money as it did before: Zero dollars, zero cents.
I stopped blogging as much because I had a few projects I wanted to start. Some happened, some are still on the to-do list. And of course things pop-up, like a once-in-a-lifetime plague.
I’ve been recording a lot of podcasts lately because I’ve been following the effect of the pandemic on porn and a lot of people have wanted to talk to me about it. I very much appreciate the slow movement away from my personal story and into one where I serve the role of pornography addiction expert. If you’ve never checked out my podcasts page or listened to one, many of the recent podcasts have been quite good. I haven’t gone back and listened to any of my first from early 2018 in a long time. I’d probably be embarrassed by it.
I also had the very cool opportunity to play interviewer to Tony Overbay on the 200th episode of his podcast, The Virtual Couch. Tony was the co-author of my latest book and I actually first met him through his podcast back when it was only episode 27. These days he gets thousands of hits and is one of the most popular mental health podcasts. Tony’s story is amazing, and it gives a lot of people to see the roles reversed where I’m the interviewer and he’s the subject. When I was a full-time journalist, I was always the interviewer. It was nice to see I hadn’t lost it.
I actually have to play catch-up on my to-do list, since I’m already a day behind this week. Had one of those days yesterday were everything I wasn’t planning jumped ahead of the stuff I was, including reading other blogs. I hope to get to them later today when I need a break from the writing.
Hope you’re hanging in there. We are going to get through this. If you live in a state where things are reopening, be careful. And remember, doctors and health officials know what they’re talking about when it comes to public health… politicians just play to the masses. There’s an election coming up and every politician’s actions right now should be looked at through that lens. Catchphrases like “We can’t let the cure be worse than the disease” make great soundbites, but when there are still states like Texas where 1,000 per day are reporting infection rates and the peak is now, the disease is still much worse than the cure.
I really hope these mainly Republican politicians aren’t wrong with their decision making. If they are, and we see a spike worse than we had before, I think the Republican party can kiss its control goodbye for a long while. Conversely, if everything goes well, I can see them getting stronger. The Democrats have nothing to lose, so standing on the sidelines of caution and staying closed is their best tactic. It’ll be interesting to see what happens over the next few months, with the real fallout coming that first Tuesday in November.
I know 45% of people will vote Republican and nothing will change their mind, and 45% will vote Democrat and nothing will change their mind. I’m in that 10% in the middle. I’d guess I probably have voted Republican far more times for national elections and Democrat far more times in state and local elections. I’m going to be one of the few people who help decide the presidential race and right now, I don’t know what I’d do. Both parties could get my vote, but they both have a lot of work to do before November.
No, I have no idea why I chose a picture of Donny and Marie Osmond from the late 1970s for the picture. None at all.
Stay safe, use your head and we’ll get through this.
And then one by one, we will all eventually die someday because that’s the way it works.