My Life As A Recovering Pornography Addict

Updated 11/19/2019 — New Posting

Most recent postings

Screen Shot 2019-11-20 at 11.57.11 AMRandom Thoughts, November 2019 It’s another one of those days when I’m ready to start writing but my mind is so full of multiple things that I don’t know where to go with it, so a random thoughts entry seems best. Strap in and we’ll see what comes out of my fingertips. Click Here


Screen Shot 2019-11-19 at 10.38.24 AMThe Horrible Truth of How I Ended Up Here I’m going to share a story today that is honest, but may get your scorn instead of sympathy or admiration. I think that people forget just how I ended up here sometimes. It’s not a pleasant story, but it’s one that I have to retell myself every so often. Click Here



Screen Shot 2019-11-18 at 10.52.56 AMQuestioning the Changes in My Attitude Toward Healthy Sexuality I’m anti-pornography, but I’m not militant about it. I understand that pornography has been around as long as man could draw on the wall of a cave, and getting into a battle you can’t win seems like a waste of time, energy and resources. There’s also the civil libertarian in me who doesn’t want to tell you how to live your life because I don’t want you to tell me how to live mine. But, yeah, I’m anti-pornography. Click Here


Screen Shot 2019-11-16 at 12.54.45 PMConfusing AF: Abuse That I Have Trouble Not Remembering Fondly The always brilliant Rollie Anderson sparked a memory in me with a comment he made yesterday on my post about thrills in addiction. This was a story I axed from my first book, but wish I would have left in because as I reflect backward now and again, I think this played a big part in my maladaptive sexual attitudes. Click Here


Screen Shot 2019-11-16 at 10.44.41 AMSorry, But There Was No Thrill In My Addiction I’ve found LinkedIn to be a great resource for pornography addiction information. However, much like statistics that peg the porn industry worth anywhere between $2 billion and $200 billion (just a slight discrepancy there), I’m starting to bump into information provided from professionals that I think is just flat-out wrong. Click Here


Screen Shot 2019-11-11 at 9.01.58 PMGuest Post: Four Things to Determine If You Can Trust Your Sex-Addicted Spouse It is one of the most common questions a spouse will ask during a couples’ first counseling session when a sex addiction has been discovered. “How will I know when I will be able to trust him again”? It’s a great question because at the core of the couples’ issues is the broke bond of trust. Click Here

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Latest appearances

2AC24B4D97D44315AE68BB3387B22DA0.pngThe Way Out Podcast It feels like I’ve been saying I’ve done nothing but high-quality podcasts lately and this feels like another. I would liken this to one where you feel like you’re listening to two friends talking about recovery from addiction. This was one of the smoothest conversations I’ve ever had, and we talk a bit about the new book at the end. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-10-27 at 3.00.48 PMACE Podcast Network Part 1 This interview, the first of two parts, is rare in that it is almost completely about my early addict years, especially those looking at my alcoholism, which rarely is the focus on an interview. The questions are fantastic and this is more in-depth than almost any interview I’ve given. This is one I’d put on my “Best Of” list. Click Here for Audio version or Click Here for Video version

Screen Shot 2019-10-27 at 3.00.48 PMAce Podcast Network Part II In this interview, we continue the conversation from the first part, going in-depth into my pornography addiction, including discussing how to deal with kids and pornography and what it is like to live as a convicted sex offender. It’s another fantastic episode. The interviewer does a great job. Click Here for Audio version or Click Here for video version

Latest Book News

Screen Shot 2019-09-11 at 12.54.52 PMCheck out the story in Recovery Today magazine. Click Here

Good news for both of the books I’ve written. My first book, The Addiction Nobody Talk About, with a brand new chapter is now available on Amazon. Also my second book, co-authored with Tony Overbay, called He’s a Porn Addict…Now What? is now available for pre-sale through my publisher’s website with a sweet discount on it. It is scheduled to be released on December 1. To learn more about these developments, Click Here.

Here’s the latest review of my first book from blogger Ashley L. Peterson. Click Here

Offering Peer Support Counseling

adult-adventure-baby-532508I am formally providing peer support counseling to people who are dealing with pornography addiction or those who have porn addicts in their lives who are directly affected. Consider it a stopping point between doing nothing and traditional mental health therapy. Click Here for Website


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      1. Vanilla Ice has a movie?! haha
        I don’t think sales are as important as you having the courage of sharing all of this. But of course, I wish that everything works out!


  1. Thank you for being open about this relevant subject! I, along with my other pastors, was never taught how to address this matter in seminary. Despite the neglect, God showed me how to extend grace to those with this struggle and help restore them to the path God has for them. Someone must speak up, and those who hear must not play the Pharisee.

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  2. I heard you on a podcast and bought your book exactly four months ago now. I finally got through the book (I’m a slow reader but also thought it wise to chew on your story daily.) You may have saved my life. I took your advice and have filed this as a cautionary tale. Read, filed, and there to read again. Many positive actions have been taken in that time span. More to come. Sleep – I must add – has proven to be my biggest ally for positive change in my life over these past few weeks over which the most change has occurred for me.

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  3. You are so welcome. As I read this reply from you to my post, I feel connected to you as not just a writer of a book but as a real person. It brings up emotions of both sadness and joy – for your hardships and your ultimate successes. I am sure much of that emotion is mine as I consider my struggles and several times when I thought my actions were about to bring my whole world down. I have had so many chances to turn it around and I feel that this will be the time when it may actually happen. Thank you again, Mr. Shea.

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  4. Hey dude,

    Thanks for following my blog – I’d try to follow you back but I don’t know how to (just got this thing).

    It’s awesome you’re doing so much for the recovery movement – much respect!

    Peace Y

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  5. Thanks for the follow and congratulations on the book! By any chance, were you following me before under a similar but different name?

    My husband also had a 30-year porn addiction that he hid from me. When he brought it into the light and worked to overcome it, it completely changed our marriage for the better. I never doubt that porn addiction is real and I’m glad you’re talking and writing about it.

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