My Life As A Recovering Pornography Addict

Updated 10/19/2019

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Screen Shot 2019-10-22 at 12.10.07 PMIf You’re Not Willing to Ask For Help, You’re Not Going to Overcome Addiction I think there are three basic steps in achieving recovery: 1) Admitting to yourself have a problem, 2) Asking a professional for help, 3) Following through with treatment. I think the second step is the toughest part for most people and where recovery either happens, or doesn’t. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-10-20 at 1.41.53 PMFascinating Stats: Does Watching More Porn Make You Realize You’re Bisexual? While I think their product is garbage, I have always been complimentary toward Pornhub’s annual release of their analytics, which give us a better understanding of how more people are using porn, exactly who those people are, where they’re from and what kind of material they are looking at. Recently, another very popular site released data that was compelling about the sexuality of their viewers. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-10-19 at 3.14.04 PMTherapy and Fellowship, not Online Forums, are the Key to Pornography Addiction Recovery I know anything is possible and there are people who have done it different ways, but I firmly believe that if you are seeking to permanently eliminate your pornography addiction, you can only do it with professional help, often bolstered by the (real-life) interaction with other addicts. Anything short of this and you’re setting yourself up for failure. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-10-18 at 6.49.16 PM10 Blogs I Love That You Should Follow, But Probably Don’t Know About I appreciate every person that follows me and based on my hits, I know a lot of people read the site regularly even if they don’t want to raise their hand and admit it. That’s fine. I just sometimes wonder if the people who have 2,349 followers recognize how lucky they are. Conversely, I also wonder if the people with 18 followers are doing something wrong but don’t know it. I guess it’s all in the eye of the beholder. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-10-17 at 10.57.35 AMRandom Things I Learned in Jail Not many people ask about jail anymore. I guess because it’s been well more than three years since I was released, so those who were curious enough to raise the issue have had their questions answered. Many people, like my mother, still treat the idea I served six months as taboo and seem shocked when I openly talk about it. I’m not ashamed I went to jail. I’m ashamed for what I did that got me there. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-10-13 at 1.33.11 PMWhere We Stand in Late 2019 with Pornography Addiction Being Recognized As a Diagnosable Condition I haven’t shared many pornography addiction statistics in the last 6-to-8 months because it’s really been a matter of waiting for science to present more information. I’ll start with an overview of where things stand with pornography addiction from a clinical, scientific standpoint, looking at the results of a catch-all survey of the situation from a team of Spanish researchers released earlier in 2019. Click Here

Screen Shot 2019-10-09 at 11.53.25 AMRecognizing the Warning Signs of Pornography Addiction in Yourself or Others It’s been quite a while since I’ve talked about this, and I always worry that some of the more important, educational articles get buried by ones that might be more entertaining, so I think it’s probably once again time to talk about the signs of pornography addiction. Click Here

Check out older articles in the following categories:
Addiction 101                 Recovery           Alarming Statistic of the Month        The World
Stories From Jail         Trivial Ranting of the Month          Endeavors          Full Q&A List

Latest Book News

Screen Shot 2019-09-11 at 12.54.52 PMCheck out the story in Recovery Today magazine. Click Here

Good news for both of the books I’ve written. My first book, The Addiction Nobody Talk About, with a brand new chapter is now available on Amazon. Also my second book, co-authored with Tony Overbay, called He’s a Porn Addict…Now What? is now available for pre-sale through my publisher’s website with a sweet discount on it. To learn more about these developments, Click Here.

 

Latest appearances

Screen Shot 2019-10-10 at 11.36.08 AMWhy Is It Like That I really enjoyed this interview because it was conducted by a couple of guys who have something like 30 combined years in the military and have to deal with PTSD issues that I can relate with. Click Here

 

Screen Shot 2019-10-10 at 11.42.30 AMInsights with Dick Goldberg A broadcasting professional for a few decades, Dick is one of the best interviewers I’ve had the pleasure of working with. If you don’t know my story, this 30-minute podcast is a great place to start. Click Here

 

Screen Shot 2019-03-28 at 9.58.41 AMBaltimore is Talking Live This interview starts about 19 minutes in. The interviewer is very inexperienced, which is why I tailored my answers to run very long, but I always remind myself not to focus on the person asking me questions, but the person hearing my answers who may need help. This starts 19 minutes in. Click Here

Offering Peer Support Counseling

adult-adventure-baby-532508I am formally providing peer support counseling to people who are dealing with pornography addiction or those who have porn addicts in their lives who are directly affected. Consider it a stopping point between doing nothing and traditional mental health therapy. Click Here for Website

 

 Radio, TV and Podcast Interviews Complete list HERE

Need a Porn Addiction Expert for your show? Click HERE

22 comments

      1. Vanilla Ice has a movie?! haha
        I don’t think sales are as important as you having the courage of sharing all of this. But of course, I wish that everything works out!

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  1. Thank you for being open about this relevant subject! I, along with my other pastors, was never taught how to address this matter in seminary. Despite the neglect, God showed me how to extend grace to those with this struggle and help restore them to the path God has for them. Someone must speak up, and those who hear must not play the Pharisee.

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  2. I heard you on a podcast and bought your book exactly four months ago now. I finally got through the book (I’m a slow reader but also thought it wise to chew on your story daily.) You may have saved my life. I took your advice and have filed this as a cautionary tale. Read, filed, and there to read again. Many positive actions have been taken in that time span. More to come. Sleep – I must add – has proven to be my biggest ally for positive change in my life over these past few weeks over which the most change has occurred for me.

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  3. You are so welcome. As I read this reply from you to my post, I feel connected to you as not just a writer of a book but as a real person. It brings up emotions of both sadness and joy – for your hardships and your ultimate successes. I am sure much of that emotion is mine as I consider my struggles and several times when I thought my actions were about to bring my whole world down. I have had so many chances to turn it around and I feel that this will be the time when it may actually happen. Thank you again, Mr. Shea.

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  4. Hey dude,

    Thanks for following my blog – I’d try to follow you back but I don’t know how to (just got this thing).

    It’s awesome you’re doing so much for the recovery movement – much respect!

    Peace Y

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  5. Thanks for the follow and congratulations on the book! By any chance, were you following me before under a similar but different name?

    My husband also had a 30-year porn addiction that he hid from me. When he brought it into the light and worked to overcome it, it completely changed our marriage for the better. I never doubt that porn addiction is real and I’m glad you’re talking and writing about it.

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