‘I Would Definitely Recommend It’

I’m absolutely thrilled today to read the first professional review of my book, “Porn and the Pandemic: How Three Months in 2020 Changed Everything” and even more thrilled that it is not only a rave, but that the reviewer, Ashley L. Peterson, understood what I was going for with my presentation of the material.

Check out her review here: https://mentalhealthathome.org/2020/07/08/book-review-porn-and-the-pandemic/

And if you want to pick up the book at a special debut price of $14.95, you can visit the Amazon page HERE

If you are a book reviewer with a following and have interest in reviewing this book, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me.

My New Book Has Been Released!

It’s always a lot of fun to write that title on one of my website posts. I’ve only been able to do it three times now, but each time, it feels like a massive exhale. Up until this point, the process of getting a book out is very private and solitary. Now, the words that I feverishly worked on, that I think are good enough to share with the world in perpetuity, that I believe are so worthwhile that they should have a small price tag behind them — it’s all out there for the world to see.

There is no more timely a moment to read this book than now. As we see cases of the Coronavirus surging in numbers and states starting to roll-back their openings, it means more people will be back in situations which make them vulnerable to pornography — either consuming it, or producing it.

Ever wanted to read first-person accounts of addiction from those dealing with it? Ever wanted to know what kind of person it takes to become an online pornography camera model? Wonder what this OnlyFans craze is about? Want to hear an unbelievable story about a man who is slipping his wife pills to help fight the STD he may have passed onto her from an affair, but refuses to tell her, blaming the pandemic for bad timing?

This is unlike any book you’ve read, because we’re all living this in the moment. At some point, it will become a book that can be put into the history section of the library, but now, it’s current events. Even if pornography and/or pornography addiction isn’t a part of your life, COVID-19 is part of your life, and this book shows how others are dealing with it.

I hope you’ll consider picking it up from Amazon. You can follow a link to read more about the book HERE.

Thank you to those of you who support me by purchasing the book. It allows me to continue the fight to educate the world about pornography addiction.

My New Book Will Be Released on July 5!!!

I am excited to announce that my next book Porn and the Pandemic: An Unseen Long-Term Effect of COVID-19 will be available on July 5!!!

I’m excited about this book because unlike my first two books, this was not planned and worked on for months or years. From conception to completion, it was just under one month, but the 12-to-15 hour days working on it gave me a renewed sense of purpose while everybody was just kind of sitting around. My therapist told me that she hadn’t heard me as excited about anything in a long while.

No, this isn’t the “presentation” I asked help in titling a few days ago. I’m still waiting on the OK to tell you about that.

Porn and the Pandemic is a shorter book than my usual, and I hope the price point will reflect it, but that kind of stuff is out of my hands. While still told in first person, which is my plan for every pornography education book I write, I think it allowed me to flex my analytical and journalistic skillset more than any book I’ve written to this point.

I hope you’ll keep this on your radar as we move closer to July.

I Need Your Opinion, Please

I alluded a week or two earlier to an opportunity I have that could potentially be a very big deal that I can’t quite explain just yet, which makes this a little bit difficult to get into, but I’ll try.

I am going to be in a very public position to share a message about pornography addiction later this year. I won’t say how because I’m not allowed to yet. Maybe it’s a national TV show. Maybe it’s an article in a major publication. Maybe it’s a big-deal speech. Maybe it’s a mega-podcast. Maybe it’s a hybrid of these things or something that I didn’t mention. The point is, don’t focus on that, focus on the fact this is a big deal.

I have to figure out that message and outline my “presentation” to those in power by June 15. It’s a first for me, but if this is how the big boys play, it’s their yard.

I’ve decided I want my presentation (probably the best catch-all word) to speak to a general, non-addict audience. I am going to assume that if they have been introduced to the concept of pornography addiction, they have given it little thought. I have no idea of the exact audience demographics, but someone who is willing to engage with this topic is probably, but not always, going to be a little younger and a little more liberal than the 50th percentile.

I can come up with an outline easy enough — it will largely just be snippets of things I’ve said on here, in my books and on podcasts for the last couple years stitched together, but the order is important and that is decided by the overall title/theme.

I’m going to cover a lot in the presentation, illustrating that porn addiction is a problem, how it actually is an addiction, what we may be in for if we don’t address the problem, and some ways we can start by addressing it. It’s not an anti-porn presentation. It’s a pro-education presentation.

So…what do you like for an overall title/theme?

  • Pornography: The Addiction Nobody Will Talk About
  • Pornography, the Virtual Drug of the 21st Century, And We’re Hooked
  • Pornography Addiction: The Next Great Healthcare Crisis, Unless…
  • We’re Silently Losing Our Children to Pornography Addiction
  • Pornography Education: It’s Not About Sex, It’s About Addiction

I have narrowed it down to these five because I think they’re all catchy and they all reflect what at least part of the content of the presentation will be. If you have a better idea, I’d love to hear it, but assuming you were flipping through a magazine, or the radio dial, or were at a museum with different displays, which one of these would call your attention the most that you couldn’t help but pay attention? If this was the title of a PBS or Discovery special, or the name of a college course, what would create the most pause? And of course, why is that the best title?

I appreciate your feedback.

The First Draft of the ‘Porn During the Pandemic’ Book is Basically Done

I was asked to write a mini-book by my publisher and to make it 10K to 20K words 15 days ago. Since then, I have interviewed 19 people, some at great length and written 28,961 words. My short days were 8-10 hours and once the interviewing was mostly done and it was just writing, the days got longer. On Saturday, I wrote 9,735 words over 15 hours and yesterday I wrote 8,224 words over 14 hours.

I think I’m going to start reading it later today, but I needed to give myself at least 18 hours to kind of get it out of my head so I could start at the beginning with a fresh set of eyes.

I’m still looking for another porn addict who has successfully navigated the pandemic (Rollie, you fit the profile? If so, drop me an email), a cam model who has retired, and a therapist to talk a bit about healthy sexuality. If you’re any of these people…let me know.

I actually think more than my other books, this one best shows my ability as a journalist and writer. While I do tell this story in the first person as a narrative thread, there’s a ton of research and a pretty deep dive into analysis of statistics. I wrote on here at the beginning of the year that I think some of Pornhub’s reporting is faulty, but I really lay out my case in this book.

I also interviewed a bunch of cam models, which is something I’d never done before. I’m usually on the side of telling people it’s not healthy to watch them or participate in them, and I still believe that at my core, but I met a really interesting bunch of people, almost all of whom I would think could be, or could have been, my friends in real life when I was younger. Having them talk about the more technical end of their job and what it means to their real lives off-camera was something I haven’t read much about. It’s the longest chapter, probably because in many ways, I found it to be the most interesting since it was my first time tackling that subject.

I think writing this book has been very good for my mental health. I’ve kind of been wandering aimlessly the last several months, even before the pandemic, uninterested in the freelance/ghostwriting I was doing and unable to get up and excited for a new book idea I have — which I still think is great, but it’s not the time for it yet. And then I have another book idea for after that, which is even more exciting, but I’ve got to get them done in the proper order. Nonetheless, I didn’t need to hustle for money because I was doing OK and nothing was stoking any fires of passion for my work. Turning out a well-researched 30,000-word book in two weeks has changed that. If gave me a burst of much-needed adrenaline. I think it also helps that in these two weeks, the weather has got much nicer and I can sit outside in shorts most days. That helps my demeanor a lot.

I believe the hope is that the book will be out in late June, but with the slowdown in production, I have a feeling that July is more realistic. With the way states are acting about the epidemic, I’m sure it will still be around and make the book still relevant in the moment. If not, I think it will always be an interesting look at how this time caused people to act in ways they otherwise wouldn’t.

During the creation of the book, I got another piece of very cool news that should be a big boost to me professionally, but I have also signed a non-disclosure agreement that says I can’t announce it for a little while. They haven’t given me a timetable, but I think it will be July or August on this one.

And, as always, you can buy my first two books from Amazon. The most recent book is on sale at the moment, 27% off the regular hardcover price and 19% off the softcover. No idea how they get those figures. You can see that book HERE.

All right, time for lunch, a little sunshine and some editing…