Recovery Included the Surprisingly Therapeutic Task of Simplifying My Life Story

I’ve been a professional writer since I was 17 years old, which means people have been paying me to put words down on paper that others presumably want to read for 26 years now. Oddly enough, it’s a couple of non-paying assignments that I think have helped me the most in recent years. Despite a…

If You’re Not Willing to Ask For Help, You’re Not Going to Overcome Addiction

I think there are three basic steps in achieving recovery: 1) Admitting to yourself have a problem, 2) Asking a professional for help, 3) Following through with treatment. I think the second step is the toughest part for most people and where recovery either happens, or doesn’t. I don’t think admitting you have an addiction…

Q&A Time: I failed to get better. How do I live with porn addiction?

  QUESTION: I've read your site for a while, I've tried to follow your advice. I saw a therapist until I couldn't afford it anymore, but porn is just part of my life and I don't think I'm ever going to get better. What's the best way to just live with the addiction? ANSWER: If…

‘Radical Acceptance’ Has Been Crucial to My Successful Addiction Recovery

One of the more important tools I developed in recovery has been the practice of radical acceptance. I was once called out for not having any radical acceptance ability when I was in rehab and it forced me to reflect on the accusation. Several of the residents were allowed to attend an “outside” 12-step meeting,…

Q&A Time: Should I Go to Inpatient Rehab for My Addiction?

QUESTION: I have been told by my girlfriend that she thinks I should go to rehab for my porn addiction. I don't think I need to leave for a month because it's not that bad. What should I do? ANSWER: This is probably worth a conversation with a professional so they can weigh-in. Assuming they…