Understand the Origin of Your Addiction

I'm well aware that there are many paths to addiction recovery, and many modalities within those paths, but I think unless your path takes you through the origin of your addiction, there's always going to be a piece of you that is more susceptible to relapse than someone who spends the time learning about how…

Only 12 Steps to My Sober Paradise?

I do not actively attend meetings of 12 Steps groups for either of my addictions at the moment. My evolution in recovery is one that they are not necessary for me anymore. But for those who ask, here's my story/experience with them. I believe some people are wired to take to programs like Alcoholics Anonymous…

NoFap is not the Key to Pornography Addiction Recovery

I know anything is possible and there are people who have done it different ways, but I firmly believe that if you are seeking to permanently eliminate your pornography addiction, you can only do it with professional help, often bolstered by the (real-life) interaction with other addicts. Anything short of this and you’re setting yourself…

Is it Possible for an Addict to Go From “Recovering” to “Recovered?”

If you’re reading this on the day I wrote it, April 2, 2019, today marks five years of sobriety from alcohol. I also count this as my sobriety date from pornography, although it technically was a few days earlier. If you would have ever told me I’d go five years without either of my nearly…

Q&A Time: I’m A Porn Addict. Help.

QUESTION: I’m struggling with this addiction and I need help. What now? ANSWER: That’s about as direct and to-the-point as you can get. It’s hard to get very specific because I don’t know if you’re looking once-a-week and feel bad about yourself or if this is a daily, multi-hour activity that is starting to stray…